The main task of the divorcing parents is to minimize the suffering of all parties involved.
Children of different ages differently understand what is happening in the relationship between parents and their explain yourself divorce.
A particularly strong influence it has on children under the age of 6 years, for normal psychological development which are primarily necessary stability. During this period the child develops understanding of the world and relations between people.
Children aged 3.5 – 6 years after the divorce, parents often have a strong self-abasement. Being unable to understand the true state of Affairs, they take the blame for their parents ‘ divorce.
Children aged 7 – 8 years, often experiencing feelings of anger and resentment, especially his father.
10 – 11 years, children feel abandoned, hurt, angry with their parents and are ashamed of their family problems at school.
Aged 13-18 years, experiencing a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent.
You need to be prepared for the different emotional reactions of their child, as well as to possible violations of his physical condition, up to diseases. Continue reading
“because they’re my parents, just so, you can’t love something”.
“listen to me, when I feel bad, patience”.
“What words would you like to hear from your mom and dad?”
from mom: “I love you, let’s go out for a walk, the kindest words (honey, Bunny, clever)”
from dad: boys – “for you, honey, you’re a real man, I’m proud of you”, girl – “how was school? how are your classes? I love you, if you have a problem, I am ready to help you buy things from? what do you give?”
^ 3. “What do you like to do together with your parents?”
From the children’s responses, we learned that this practice is “to go to rest on nature, to talk, chat, watch movies, play, do homework, do that trough.”
Psychologists say that:
it is the Pope often avoid conflict;
dads harder to switch from communicating with colleagues for a conversation with the daughter or son;
dads are often not able to control your emotions and move on cry, the instructions strictly.
The father’s role in family education is great.
1.A personal example of his father.
A huge impact on the development of the child have Continue reading
Wings of Poetry.
Women can often hear the regret that today’s boys lack male parenting, and as a result lack of male parenting men do not manifest themselves in a masculine way. This is a huge however, only are we ready for such education, including whether women themselves to make difficult the norms of male parenting, education like men? The belief “Men don’t cry” is a required part of men’s education. I think this is a good believe that it should be applied with discernment and intelligence.
Itself to cry, do not be ashamed and not harmful. Good to cry from joy, to cry at the funeral, where appropriate and customary. But in other situations where children and women can cry, men do not. Men don’t cry, because for them it is usually pointless, and to be boys, we have a strong and reasonable people.
This is not all know, but for men crying is pointless. For women it’s different: if the woman mount, and she cried, she usually becomes easier, woman crying helps to cope with emotional pain. While the men have all wrong, their grief and their pain are not crying eases, no.
Women believe in it with difficulty, but it’s true – tears from men not easier. If a man against his tears, they cause him protest and additional internal stress. If a man has nothing against men crying, he own tears indifferent as to any dischargeof fluid from the body. Continue reading