Relationship between parents and children
Relationship between parents and children – section of Foreign languages, HUMAN DEVELOPMENT Ninth Edition Prentice Hall during the Period of Study In the Primary School is Changing the nature of the Relationship of Children I.
During the period of study in the primary school is changing the nature of the relationship between children and parents. Children are not so directly Express their anger and discontent his parents and, most likely, will not now seek his cries, a whimper or applying to his father or mother shock, how could do it before. Parents are now less concerned about teaching the children independence, search of home Affairs, which is possible for them to charge; they care more about the academic skills and achievements of the child (Lamb, Hwang, Ketterlinus & Fracasso, 1999). Elementary school age children’s behavior requires a more subtle leadership, however, the control of their parents continues to retain its importance. Monitoring means knowing where the child is and what he does, and that he occupied it by the appropriate activity; this applies both to the social acceptability of his actions and studying, homework and other responsibilities. The researchers note that children are under constant supervision of their parents, receive higher marks than those who watch less (Crouter, MacDermid, McHale, & Perry-Jenkins, 1990).
Optimal parental behavior. What parental behavior can be considered optimal? Point of view on this issue had been repeatedly changed. Modern research indicates that the only important goal of parents to promote their children’s self-regulatory behavior, in fact, their ability to control, guide their actions and to meet the demands placed on them and their families and society. As mentioned in Chapter 8, disciplinary action, based on the authority of the parents, more effective in the development of self-regulation in children than others. When parents resort to verbal arguments and sentences, the child is inclined to agree with them, instead of to show defiance (Lamb, Ketterlinus & Fracasso, 1999).
The parents arguments usually relate to prosocial behavior and compliance with social rules. The parents reminding their children about the possible consequences of their actions for other people, the child usually is more popular and has internalized moral norms. Conversely, when parents elect power methods of socialization (as in the case of authoritarian parental behavior), the child labour develops inter-
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Parents teach children to appreciate the warmth and love through their own behavior
narisovannye norms and mechanisms of control, regardless of cultural differences.
Studies consistently show that children fulfilling the requirements of the adults in their presence, but does not do so when they are absent more often had parents who are more coercion than persuasion.
Parents often succeed in developing the children’s self-regulatory behavior, if gradually increase the degree of their participation in family decision-making. In a series of studies on parental dialogue and methods of education, Eleanor of Maccabi (Massolo, 1992) concluded that children are best adapted to those cases where the parents are in their behavior demonstrate what she called deregulirovanie. These parents involve children to cooperate and share the responsibility. They take into account the near future, when their children become teenagers, begin to make most decisions independently. In preparation for this, the parents are now trying to discuss with children the various problems and conduct interviews with them. They realize that creating a framework for responsible decision making.
Especially useful for understanding what constitutes optimal parental behavior is the notion of generating support structures. Introduction to the world of humans occurs in children in difficult social situations under the guidance of parents or other more experienced partners (Rogoff, 1990). Imagine a family who was invited to widely celebrate the wedding. Socially competent parents will help children to anticipate the course of the upcoming celebration. They will explain to them the meaning of a particular event, ritual and tell you what behavior is expected of them by adults. However, once parents are able to let your children know only a small part of cultural meanings that refer to “marriage” and “wedding”; ideally, the meaning of these concepts should surpass the current level of understanding of the child.
There were arguments in favor of the fact that socialization should not be viewed as the process of transition of control from the parents to the child as he becomes more independent and able to regulate their behavior. Rather, we should talk about the process of mutual or co-regulation, which will continue throughout the life of the participants of socialization. Maccoby (Massolo, 1992) suggests that the duration of parental influence is determined by the strength and soundness of their relationship with a child with special importance in the period of middle childhood.