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Parenting fear

1. Intimidation

To restrict the activity of the child, parents invent a system of intimidation:

— Will not be a mother to listen to, you are going to eat.

— That will give you to the doctor. (Policeman, fireman, janitor with a broom. ).

— Will long to touch — it will fall off.

As a result of such education trip to the hospital or call the doctor at home is a tragedy and a scandal. Just a happy child suddenly begins to yell at the whole waterfront (and we do not realize that the whole “blame” the policeman, standing at the crossroads). And on the grounds of sexual fears psychopathology theories developed!

Strada children, we:

a) suppress their activity, causing increased irritability and soreness,

b) introduce into the consciousness of the new characters that cause irrational anxiety and hysteria.

“The most harmless consequence of all this is that the frightened child afraid to stay home alone and thereby provides parents a lot of difficulties and inconveniences.

Fear must be banished from the world of childhood. This is the first concern of the teacher”. (5).

2. Threats

Children (especially young) often perceive the threat as an invitation to repeat the forbidden action.

We say, “If you will throw me in the cube. “And the child hears: “. You will throw at me. “— And throw! A familiar story?

The older children perceive the warning as a challenge to their own authority. And if they brought up the sense of dignity, they will definitely prove to yourself and others that are not afraid of anything. (4).

So in any case, the threat is not the most effective means of limiting the actions of children.

The threat is more a Testament to our laziness. Instead play with the child or to distract his attention, we try to stop him by voice, by committing ourselves to avenge the disobedience. The child often takes the challenge, and is a welcome calm a quarrel starts with the threat to escalate into a fight.

3. Creek

Sometimes the stress of the voice of the teacher needs. If the child moves to the danger, and we are far, cry (just like any other strong signal) may stop a person.

You can raise your voice to attract the attention of loud children. But after that, it is advisable to upgrade to a normal tone of conversation. Instead of screaming in this case you can use the whistle.

To enjoy screaming constantly is pedagogically inappropriate. The tone is always set by the tutor. And if he often yells at the children, then those in the answer are the same. Time and again I watched as my colleagues it is improper call on children. And when those offended, said, they say, “you’re silly”, invited parents, “guilty” in education “such a bully”.

“If the child is not satisfied with us and if we cannot bring himself off on the swearing, the shouting, it is best to leave the child alone, not to help, not criticize him, because is not so terrible deuce and all bad marks taken together, these arguments, shouting and swearing”. (2).

Today we scream at him that he was “stupid”, and two decades later they would hear us, it appears, cannot not be allowed to grandchildren. Needless to cook such a future?

Tip: Instantly excitable adults should keep a card on which was written approximate the following: “Look at yourself in the mirror when you yell. Well, ugly!”.

4. The irony

When the rage subsided, some allow themselves to appeal to the child with the words:

— Come here, you fool!

“Parents often use adjectives that would suit better themselves”. (5).

5. Children’s fears

Greatest fear children feel when they think their parents don’t like. You should never threaten the child that the parents will abandon it. No pretence, no seriously you can’t say that it will leave (sell out “to the store”, to the orphanage). If the child retains mother, her need without words to help him get dressed than to threaten that “the mother will go alone”. (4).

A child brought up in the fear grows insecure. He is afraid of everything, and afraid, acts awkwardly, timidly or refuses to do anything. This is another reason children (“stupid”) stubbornness. Of fears is formed and shyness, which then prevents both children and annoying parents.

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