The Science of winning. How to teach your child to win and lose with dignity?
1. Proud of him – always!
First we need to explain to the child that if he will lose or he will not be able to easily finishXia its goals, it will be less to love – on the contrary, mom and dad will be continuedpress to be proud of him because he did not give up, ProDalil the fight despite the loss. The child must be absolutely sure!
2. Have patience
So much longing for victory, kiddies, it happens, and solnicaut – “quietly” move, or remove figures, maps, undertunable under the rules, doing extra running. RelaTES it easy. ‘t doMaite, that child will grow up to be a crook and a fraudschik, he himself perfectly knowlet that is doing poorly, but win he needs at any cost, and aprerequisite rules him until just incomprehensible. This will come with time.
So try covertake benevolence, don’t blame the kid too much – otherwise, you may just destroy his motivation to win. Remember that along with it is lost and a desire to achieve anything, and it does not help in life.
3.Don’t play in the giveaway
The child will quickly realize that you are disingenuous, moreover, defeat him is as necessary as and victory. We must try to alternate the success and not the success of the child. Take the same checkers. If he only learn to play them, and in the corners can already play with it and in that and another game. It does not use the mistakes of the child, calmly explain that he ” yawn” let go and be careful. It will be blahgodart for such help.
4. Look different “enemies” – stronger and weaker
Well, if the child has the opportunity from time to time to play with more of alsbym opponent into feel that he is not hopeless. But explain to him that it is more useful to play with a strong opponent, because it develops and does not relax, because the SILtion to learn and makes withto veranstaltete.
And, by the way, teach your rea child never to laugh at the loser and not Oscarfuck him. (Learn on their owns example!) Children generously spread the word “fool”, “moron”, “goat”? Explain that this is unacceptable in a game where any player canbe stronger. Once he is defeated, he can hear these same words in the address, and it is unlikely he’ll like it.
If the child lost and could not resist – upset, REClapped, I have to comfort him, to explain that from bad luck nobody is insured that the game is so much luck and that it’s only a game. Try to explain that with someone who always wins, just not interested to play because the game is very important namesbut the moment that luck is not always on your side and maybe you don’t always UDAstsa to be the best. I. immediately praise him. After the crushing defeat of the word “Today I had Popoaunts” or “You are getting better!” will help the child not to be offended at yourself, you and the whole world, and to continue to learn to play.
6. Say, explain.
If the kid is scaredIvan doesn loud tantrum everydy time loses, calm, well-wishertion tone explain that the gameplay is important in itself, and if the case ends with a scandal, then no one will play. If the child will promise that it shall be no more, but next time again make a scene, it’s best actiontion with him for some timebedrooms not to play.
And so you were born, knowing how to expertly play the onkehr (TIC-TAC-toe, bingo, Darts, etc.)? That’s it. Probably not one year Prowas (and maybe decades, therement) before you dobiewere their result. And razocaralations, probably, enough. So why do you from your baby immediate expect miracles?
Science claims that ththe man took one hundred years to learn how to overcome stresssi and depression caused by the failure. So give and you to your child at least a couple of years that he learned to play DOSdecent. Just help him in this.
Encourage your child to try new games, to engage in various occupations. If childka’t one thing, it does not meanmeant that it in principle can’t succeed.