The main task of the divorcing parents is to minimize the suffering of all parties involved.
Children of different ages differently understand what is happening in the relationship between parents and their explain yourself divorce.
A particularly strong influence it has on children under the age of 6 years, for normal psychological development which are primarily necessary stability. During this period the child develops understanding of the world and relations between people.
Children aged 3.5 – 6 years after the divorce, parents often have a strong self-abasement. Being unable to understand the true state of Affairs, they take the blame for their parents ‘ divorce.
Children aged 7 – 8 years, often experiencing feelings of anger and resentment, especially his father.
10 – 11 years, children feel abandoned, hurt, angry with their parents and are ashamed of their family problems at school.
Aged 13-18 years, experiencing a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent.
You need to be prepared for the different emotional reactions of their child, as well as to possible violations of his physical condition, up to diseases. Continue reading
I agree, I was just the same. Though all his slack – lie, lie and anything I like and have made. I went to “reverse”. Here I want him, for example, to buy something (to give). Or already looking to buy, but did not immediately give up, let the small and insignificant (favorite magazine, a regular Snickers – he loves them, etc). I say” I will do such-and-such. (the only better one something and not a list of 18 items) – will receive a gift”. And my son, as the hurricane begins to rush. So he wants something! Surprised myself, but it works!
You wrote that you punish him. It seems that you are unfair to him. Children generally believe that all that you have given them this them. The child begins to behave worse, Oh so you (took the phone, etc) so I do so, receive! That is a bit of a fight turns out. On the one hand it is good even that the child has a clear position that he is not a sissy, but still children in global Affairs must submit to parents (at night to sleep, go to school, homework to do, things to clean up after yourself, eat right, dress for the weather).
Because it is difficult to understand why the mother first of all allows, then takes away. Riot. Personality, with its own interests and views at the surroundings, build up to seven years. Seek less primitive methods of education instead of prohibitions and deprivation.
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A chick or a puppy, or a child is a being for whom all life inherent instinct to protect, feeding, sacrifice. All the kids of the world it’s her tomorrow’s continuation of life and the path of evolution.
Parental love is the unconditional love God has for his creations. God always loves his children, because he always gives to a person and never asks for nothing in return. The Lord grant people happiness to be born in this world, the happiness of knowing the world and oneself in it, happiness, sorrows and joys, is a source of strength to overcome difficulties and happiness of self-conscious intelligence, the ability to create. To his great happiness, we like the heavenly Father the opportunity to love, to give, to create.
Absolute love is absolute, or God, it is irrelevant. God loves the world, ie pouring goodness, light and warmth like the Sun. The sun shines and warms, brings life to the planet regardless, we ask him about it or not, we love to bask in the sun or not, good mi or evil, healthy or sick, stupid or intelligent. Not casually in many ancient religions the cult of the Sun was associated with the Supreme deity. The goodness that give the Sun God, is irrelevant to what we are and what Continue reading