Today divorce is not spoken with sadly-cloying tone, unfortunately have become accustomed. If earlier it was believed that the main thing is to keep whatever was family, so the children had a father, but now society increasingly inclined to believe that if a divorce is necessary for parents, it is essential for children. But even if your decision to leave is the only correct way out of the stalled marital relationships, painful experiences not to avoid any of the participants. And are the most vulnerable and dependent family members – our children. So, they are most in need of assistance. Psychologists have identified a few General steps which are emotions and feelings of the child during this difficult period.
The child does not believe in what is happening, not willing to accept the divorce. He may even tell friends that dad just left on a business trip. He’s scared, depressed and only wants things to be as before.
After a time, the child understands that, as before, will be gone and embittered: rude, becomes irritable and angry. And this anger can be directed at the parent Continue reading
I agree, I was just the same. Though all his slack – lie, lie and anything I like and have made. I went to “reverse”. Here I want him, for example, to buy something (to give). Or already looking to buy, but did not immediately give up, let the small and insignificant (favorite magazine, a regular Snickers – he loves them, etc). I say” I will do such-and-such. (the only better one something and not a list of 18 items) – will receive a gift”. And my son, as the hurricane begins to rush. So he wants something! Surprised myself, but it works!
You wrote that you punish him. It seems that you are unfair to him. Children generally believe that all that you have given them this them. The child begins to behave worse, Oh so you (took the phone, etc) so I do so, receive! That is a bit of a fight turns out. On the one hand it is good even that the child has a clear position that he is not a sissy, but still children in global Affairs must submit to parents (at night to sleep, go to school, homework to do, things to clean up after yourself, eat right, dress for the weather).
Because it is difficult to understand why the mother first of all allows, then takes away. Riot. Personality, with its own interests and views at the surroundings, build up to seven years. Seek less primitive methods of education instead of prohibitions and deprivation.
Your child considers punishment Continue reading
Divorce is always a huge shock in the life of any person. None of the former spouses nothing from it. But most often the biggest psychological losses is not the spouse who chose freedom or chose a new partner, and the one that realizes that the remains of a loved one. It is very difficult at this difficult time to keep calm, patience, self-control. Hard to hide the despair and pain from the people around them, and most importantly, from her own children.
Besides divorce radically changes the lives of both spouses. They have a huge number of new problems. For example, women have economic difficulties, if they remain with the children. Gradually changing personal tastes, preferences, changing the whole routine lifestyle, including relationships with common friends, relatives on both sides.
Can maintain a good relationship spouses and former spouses psychology of relations which are quite difficult? Let’s talk about this more:
Is it possible to maintain a normal relationship between the former spouses.
Most often it is women who are forever trying to break up the relationship that brings them pain. After divorce, many ex-wives trying to strike ex-husband. The pain, the hurt, the anger is still very strong. Often caused psychological trauma does Continue reading