Know your child, Former parents don't: how to help your child survive divorce?
  Today divorce is not spoken with sadly-cloying tone, unfortunately have become accustomed. If earlier it was believed that the main thing is to keep whatever was family, so the…

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ETHICS AND PSYCHOLOGY of FAMILY LIFE
  This program is based on an experimental variant of the standard program “Ethics and psychology of family life”, M. 1982. Changes and additions to the program made by the…

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How to help your child, go through divorces

The main task of the divorcing parents is to minimize the suffering of all parties involved.

Children of different ages differently understand what is happening in the relationship between parents and their explain yourself divorce.

A particularly strong influence it has on children under the age of 6 years, for normal psychological development which are primarily necessary stability. During this period the child develops understanding of the world and relations between people.

Children aged 3.5 – 6 years after the divorce, parents often have a strong self-abasement. Being unable to understand the true state of Affairs, they take the blame for their parents ‘ divorce.

Children aged 7 – 8 years, often experiencing feelings of anger and resentment, especially his father.

10 – 11 years, children feel abandoned, hurt, angry with their parents and are ashamed of their family problems at school.

Aged 13-18 years, experiencing a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent.

You need to be prepared for the different emotional reactions of their child, as well as to possible violations of his physical condition, up to diseases. Continue reading

The Influence of parents on children

 

In one article all the subtleties of parent–child relationships to disclose. Today we will consider only how negative words, name-calling child with no ability to control your emotions affect humans in the future.

In fact, the influence of parents on children is difficult to assess. Since there are other authoritative adults, some idols in adolescents, books, all of which also lay much in person, then in the amount of impact on his values and behavior.

In psychology one experiment that no one dares to repeat. It was conducted on children orphans.

The children were divided into two groups. Those who are lucky enough and they were in the first group received approval and constantly praised them for any attempt to properly and competently to speak, and generally favored any statement. In the second group did not skimp on harsh word, but any hint of a speech impediment immediately condemned, child publicly humiliated, and even those who normally spoke, they were called “pathetic stutterers”.

According to the results of the experiment, children in the second group, which had no defect of speech become stutterers. The defect of speech is preserved in adult life. Continue reading

Know your child, Former parents don’t: how to help your child survive divorce?

 

Today divorce is not spoken with sadly-cloying tone, unfortunately have become accustomed. If earlier it was believed that the main thing is to keep whatever was family, so the children had a father, but now society increasingly inclined to believe that if a divorce is necessary for parents, it is essential for children. But even if your decision to leave is the only correct way out of the stalled marital relationships, painful experiences not to avoid any of the participants. And are the most vulnerable and dependent family members – our children. So, they are most in need of assistance. Psychologists have identified a few General steps which are emotions and feelings of the child during this difficult period.

Denial

The child does not believe in what is happening, not willing to accept the divorce. He may even tell friends that dad just left on a business trip. He’s scared, depressed and only wants things to be as before.

Anger

After a time, the child understands that, as before, will be gone and embittered: rude, becomes irritable and angry. And this anger can be directed at the parent Continue reading