The main task of the divorcing parents is to minimize the suffering of all parties involved.
Children of different ages differently understand what is happening in the relationship between parents and their explain yourself divorce.
A particularly strong influence it has on children under the age of 6 years, for normal psychological development which are primarily necessary stability. During this period the child develops understanding of the world and relations between people.
Children aged 3.5 – 6 years after the divorce, parents often have a strong self-abasement. Being unable to understand the true state of Affairs, they take the blame for their parents ‘ divorce.
Children aged 7 – 8 years, often experiencing feelings of anger and resentment, especially his father.
10 – 11 years, children feel abandoned, hurt, angry with their parents and are ashamed of their family problems at school.
Aged 13-18 years, experiencing a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent.
You need to be prepared for the different emotional reactions of their child, as well as to possible violations of his physical condition, up to diseases. Continue reading
“because they’re my parents, just so, you can’t love something”.
“listen to me, when I feel bad, patience”.
“What words would you like to hear from your mom and dad?”
from mom: “I love you, let’s go out for a walk, the kindest words (honey, Bunny, clever)”
from dad: boys – “for you, honey, you’re a real man, I’m proud of you”, girl – “how was school? how are your classes? I love you, if you have a problem, I am ready to help you buy things from? what do you give?”
^ 3. “What do you like to do together with your parents?”
From the children’s responses, we learned that this practice is “to go to rest on nature, to talk, chat, watch movies, play, do homework, do that trough.”
Psychologists say that:
it is the Pope often avoid conflict;
dads harder to switch from communicating with colleagues for a conversation with the daughter or son;
dads are often not able to control your emotions and move on cry, the instructions strictly.
The father’s role in family education is great.
1.A personal example of his father.
A huge impact on the development of the child have Continue reading
In one article all the subtleties of parent–child relationships to disclose. Today we will consider only how negative words, name-calling child with no ability to control your emotions affect humans in the future.
In fact, the influence of parents on children is difficult to assess. Since there are other authoritative adults, some idols in adolescents, books, all of which also lay much in person, then in the amount of impact on his values and behavior.
In psychology one experiment that no one dares to repeat. It was conducted on children orphans.
The children were divided into two groups. Those who are lucky enough and they were in the first group received approval and constantly praised them for any attempt to properly and competently to speak, and generally favored any statement. In the second group did not skimp on harsh word, but any hint of a speech impediment immediately condemned, child publicly humiliated, and even those who normally spoke, they were called “pathetic stutterers”.
According to the results of the experiment, children in the second group, which had no defect of speech become stutterers. The defect of speech is preserved in adult life. Continue reading