Today divorce is not spoken with sadly-cloying tone, unfortunately have become accustomed. If earlier it was believed that the main thing is to keep whatever was family, so the children had a father, but now society increasingly inclined to believe that if a divorce is necessary for parents, it is essential for children. But even if your decision to leave is the only correct way out of the stalled marital relationships, painful experiences not to avoid any of the participants. And are the most vulnerable and dependent family members – our children. So, they are most in need of assistance. Psychologists have identified a few General steps which are emotions and feelings of the child during this difficult period.
The child does not believe in what is happening, not willing to accept the divorce. He may even tell friends that dad just left on a business trip. He’s scared, depressed and only wants things to be as before.
After a time, the child understands that, as before, will be gone and embittered: rude, becomes irritable and angry. And this anger can be directed at the parent Continue reading
No matter how much we wanted to see their children truthful, from time to time they have to state that children, like adults, lying. Lie children of all ages, but especially they often do in early childhood.
Age 2 to 4 years:
– Today I told to all children in kindergarten that we were in Africa.
– But you haven’t been there…
But someday we’re still going there, right?
In young children from birth highly developed imagination. Sometimes children with difficulty distinguish the actual from the fictional and therefore often fantastic stories turn into a dream come true, “persisted” children’s minds.
Four-Misha often brought from kindergarten his favorite toys, but he always claimed that the teacher allowed him to take them home. The psychologist explained: so Misha wants to have this toy that is sure that is entitled to take her home.
What to do?
Stupid and harmful to punish kids for similar offenses, even if they’re lying. Parents need to patiently explain to the children that it is not always what he wants – executable. Long lecture about honesty Continue reading
From the first days of life the child in the family habits are formed, attachment, behavior, which is based on a dynamic stereotype, i.e. the system of specific responses of the body to consistently affect it stimuli.
To 2-3 years, the stereotype of the child’s behavior becomes quite stable.
To enroll in preschool at the usual conditions of life in the family (regimen, diet, climate, methods of education, character education) are changing.
This requires the child’s adjustment to pre-existing pattern, which is a very difficult task and often leads to stress. What does it mean?
In children in the period of adaptation may interfere with appetite, sleep, emotional state, sometimes the body temperature rises.
Some children experience a loss of the already established positive habits and skills. Loss of appetite, sleep, emotional state leads to decreased immunity, poor physical development, weight loss, etc.
What should parents do?
First Continue reading