The main task of the divorcing parents is to minimize the suffering of all parties involved.
Children of different ages differently understand what is happening in the relationship between parents and their explain yourself divorce.
A particularly strong influence it has on children under the age of 6 years, for normal psychological development which are primarily necessary stability. During this period the child develops understanding of the world and relations between people.
Children aged 3.5 – 6 years after the divorce, parents often have a strong self-abasement. Being unable to understand the true state of Affairs, they take the blame for their parents ‘ divorce.
Children aged 7 – 8 years, often experiencing feelings of anger and resentment, especially his father.
10 – 11 years, children feel abandoned, hurt, angry with their parents and are ashamed of their family problems at school.
Aged 13-18 years, experiencing a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent.
You need to be prepared for the different emotional reactions of their child, as well as to possible violations of his physical condition, up to diseases. Continue reading
Design childrens rooms
Children’s room is not operating, and should not be sterile – it should just be clean. After all, the conditions in which the baby lives, depends on his health.
In the house where the little man is growing, not just should be free of dirt and dust. It is important to create a specific microclimate is the environment (which may affect the child’s development), and illuminance (it depends on the baby’s mood and health of his eyes), as well as temperature, cleanliness and humidity (these factors affect the respiratory system and overall health little).
How to take care of the space surrounding the child and nothing to lose?
The period of waiting for a baby is the best suited for cosmetic repairs in the apartment: “freshen up” the walls and ceiling need not only in the room where it will live, but in the bathroom and kitchen, in that case, if the house was haunted by mold. (If it is not possible to make repairs, ceiling and walls need to be washed and, if necessary, Continue reading
Today divorce is not spoken with sadly-cloying tone, unfortunately have become accustomed. If earlier it was believed that the main thing is to keep whatever was family, so the children had a father, but now society increasingly inclined to believe that if a divorce is necessary for parents, it is essential for children. But even if your decision to leave is the only correct way out of the stalled marital relationships, painful experiences not to avoid any of the participants. And are the most vulnerable and dependent family members – our children. So, they are most in need of assistance. Psychologists have identified a few General steps which are emotions and feelings of the child during this difficult period.
The child does not believe in what is happening, not willing to accept the divorce. He may even tell friends that dad just left on a business trip. He’s scared, depressed and only wants things to be as before.
After a time, the child understands that, as before, will be gone and embittered: rude, becomes irritable and angry. And this anger can be directed at the parent Continue reading