The main task of the divorcing parents is to minimize the suffering of all parties involved.
Children of different ages differently understand what is happening in the relationship between parents and their explain yourself divorce.
A particularly strong influence it has on children under the age of 6 years, for normal psychological development which are primarily necessary stability. During this period the child develops understanding of the world and relations between people.
Children aged 3.5 – 6 years after the divorce, parents often have a strong self-abasement. Being unable to understand the true state of Affairs, they take the blame for their parents ‘ divorce.
Children aged 7 – 8 years, often experiencing feelings of anger and resentment, especially his father.
10 – 11 years, children feel abandoned, hurt, angry with their parents and are ashamed of their family problems at school.
Aged 13-18 years, experiencing a sense of loss, resentment, adolescents still be able to adequately imagine the causes and consequences of divorce, the quality of their relationships with each parent.
You need to be prepared for the different emotional reactions of their child, as well as to possible violations of his physical condition, up to diseases. Continue reading
Parents in the village of Sanli, England, were outraged, seeing as four-year-old child is involved in dance at the pole, which usually can only be seen in strip clubs, but has recently become fashionable in fitness clubs.
Students from the Academy Revolutions Pole demonstrated this kind of dance during the summer fair in elementary school Crockenhill, reports the Daily Mail newspaper. The performers were dressed in glittering form-fitting shorts and short tops and danced at the pole to the music from disney’s “the lion King” and the song Bonnie Tyler ’s Holding Out For a Hero”.
One of the fathers said it wouldn’t look so terrible if they “were dressed decently”, however, he said, “because of their clothes and bright makeup idea seemed inappropriate. I had the feeling that I’m watching something very nasty”.
However, despite the fact that one of the performers was 12 years old and the other only 4, the school administration and the owner of the dance Studio did not support the opinion of parents.
The school Director Sarah Uorshou (Sarah Warshow) said she invited the participants of the Academy Revolutions Pole to speak at a school fair, because she believes that pole Continue reading
Today divorce is not spoken with sadly-cloying tone, unfortunately have become accustomed. If earlier it was believed that the main thing is to keep whatever was family, so the children had a father, but now society increasingly inclined to believe that if a divorce is necessary for parents, it is essential for children. But even if your decision to leave is the only correct way out of the stalled marital relationships, painful experiences not to avoid any of the participants. And are the most vulnerable and dependent family members – our children. So, they are most in need of assistance. Psychologists have identified a few General steps which are emotions and feelings of the child during this difficult period.
The child does not believe in what is happening, not willing to accept the divorce. He may even tell friends that dad just left on a business trip. He’s scared, depressed and only wants things to be as before.
After a time, the child understands that, as before, will be gone and embittered: rude, becomes irritable and angry. And this anger can be directed at the parent Continue reading